• One of my son's favorite movies is the movie "The Incredibles". When our second son was born, someone said that his resemblance to "Jack Jack" in the movie was incredible. Our oldest got such a kick out of that and the nicknames stuck. He still refers to us by our nicknames on a daily basis. We hope to add a "Violet" to our family through adoption someday.

mother’s day bucket list

my wishlist for mother’s day was to spend wonderful quality time with my boys, my mom, and do some things I’ve been wanting to do….

–plant my flowers in the yard

–spend some time getting started with the community veggie garden

–visit a local iris garden

–get home made ice cream

–go on a hike with mr incredible to celebrate our 12-year wedding anniversary (which falls on mother’s day this year!)

I’m thankful for the gorgeous weather we’re having this weekend so we’ve had a chance to do all the things we wanted to do together!

Happy mothers day to all the wonderful moms in my life, all the women who wish to be moms, and all the moms who’ve sustained losses and remember them so acutely on mother’s day.  Sending my love to you all!

Jenna - May 12, 2012 - 11:15 pm

Beautiful photos! Glad you got to do everything you wanted for Mother’s Day! :)

Debbie - May 13, 2012 - 10:38 am

These photos are just gorgeous! Purple iris are my mom’s favorite. I’m so happy that you got to do the things on your bucket list!

Karen - May 13, 2012 - 4:12 pm

SO beautiful! Love the irises! Happy Mother’s Day to you, and hope you had a wonderful hike :)

Shannon - May 13, 2012 - 8:13 pm

Sounds like a wonderful day! The irises are beautiful.

Happy Mother’s Day!

Marcella - May 14, 2012 - 12:24 pm

happy anniversary! had forgotten that it is this time of year!
also, where is that Iris Garden??? Beautiful.

Cheryl Barker - May 14, 2012 - 4:24 pm

Happy Anniversary! So glad you had such a great Mother’s Day weekend. I love your Mother’s Day wish to all moms — so beautifully stated. Love all the pics, too! :)

kate - May 15, 2012 - 3:38 pm

i was at that iris garden for mother’s day as well. more in honor of my new niece than mother’s day, but i was glad to see it at peak because we went too late last year!

capturing summer fun

My favorite part about photography is capturing real moments in time and genuine grins.  Those are the pictures I go back to again and again–the ones that make me feel something and remember something.  As summertime approaches, I can’t wait to photograph my boys in our favorite season doing all of our favorite things together!  My strategy for capturing our summer fun in natural, real photos is to EXPLORE:

“E”–Establish how and where the pictures will be taken before the camera comes out.  While I definitely want the expressions to be natural, as the person behind the camera I want to set the stage for the best possible location, lighting, time of day, and background.  In my yard, for instance, I’ll gently prompt my boys to turn a different direction when I’m photographing them so the wooden fence is behind them rather than the cluttered garage or the bright pink playhouse. I’ll also tend to photograph them playing in the early evening instead of when they’re playing at noon so that the light is soft around them and no one is squinting. Or, I’ll take the kids to a park or a certain location with the intention of taking their pictures there.

lets go swing at sunset!

“X”–Excite them and engage them before I even start taking pictures!  We’re going to spend time together doing something we enjoy!  If they are relaxed and happy, they are going to give me much better smiles than if they feel forced to sit and smile.  I don’t immediately take out the camera when I’m taking either personal or professional photos.  I like to spend time talking and hanging out together first!

mommy tells pretty funny jokes

“P”–Play together!  My personal motto is that taking pictures should always be fun.  I want to capture them as their best selves in a very playful way.  Childhood is innocent and fun and precious and I want to snap that up to record forever.  Once they’re engaged and excited about taking pictures, the camera comes out and we play!  Running, tickling, piggy back rides, jumping, chasing a ball, singing, splashing in the water, blowing bubbles, throwing leaves….When I’m laughing and giggling they’re laughing and giggling. I will finish a photo shoot with my face tired from smiling so hard and my kids have come to love seeing the camera come out because it means an adventure!

“L”–Listen to their ideas and cues.  If my oldest says “can you take a picture of me running as fast as I can?” then I’m going to say yes!  If my younger one asks to go throw rocks by the river when the camera is out, I’m going to say yes!  I like involving them in taking their pictures.  They’re the ones being photographed so they should also have a say in what gets photographed.  In the same vein, I follow their cues carefully.  If they’re laughing hard and doing something cute, my camera is at the ready to click, click, click.  If they’re starting to melt down and get weepy, then I can see they’re tired and we’re done!  Listening to their input and cues can make or break a successful time together.

come get me!

“O”–Offer them a job. My boys absolutely love it when I whisper a “secret” in their ears, asking them to help me make the other one smile. I’ll even suggest ideas for what they can do for their job as my special helper.  Or, I’ll give them the job of organizing an activity, like playing a game, finding a flower, etc.

tell each other funny stories

pick a pretty flower

“R”–Relax my expectations!  If I set out with a specific “vision” in mind, its bound to fail:)I am much happier with the end result of my pictures when I set out just to have fun together and open myself to simply being creative and spontaneous.

no, I don’t care you’re jumping and rolling on a mattress in your Easter shirt….

no, I don’t care that you rarely wear clothes and your best smiles come then

no, I don’t care that you’re happiest when you are filthy and playing in the dirt all day

“E”–Explore a new location with my kids and my camera. When I bring my kids to a new location, they naturally have fresh enthusiasm and will turn to me with huge smiles: “see this, mom??”  Exploring a new trail in the woods, finding big rocks to climb, checking out a new ice cream store all naturally produce opportunities for happy, genuine smiles.  Pair that with the above strategies and I am almost always rewarded with pictures of my sweet boys smiling happily.

Have fun exploring together with your kids this summer!

xoxo,

Emily

Debbie - May 9, 2012 - 5:10 pm

So much energy in these photos! I love that your kids love seeing the camera come out – it shows.

Shannon - May 9, 2012 - 7:44 pm

These tips are so fantastic! Thank you!

rest

“O rest in the Lord, wait patiently for him, and he will give you your heart’s desire” from Psalm 37

Debbie - May 9, 2012 - 5:16 pm

Painfully, breathtakingly beautiful… reminds me to keep praying.

simple

Sometimes I base my perceived happiness on the “big things” and I tend to get very caught up in stressing about the future big things….like having enough money to pay our bills (why can we never get ahead?  we’re always tight on money!), and if we’ll have more kids (how will that come about? and when?), and what we should do about our house, and if we’ll move, and if this part of the world is the right place for us to be living, and my health (doc wants to send me to mayo clinic), and if my kids will do well in school, and certain business decisions, and and and…..and I get so beyond stressed out and unable to focus on anything else because I’m thinking about the big things that might come ahead.

And while those are important for me to be conscious of as part of living intentionally, I have been convicted more and more often lately to dwell in the moment instead.

Enjoy the simple things.  Because I can’t control the future and I can’t control how the big things are going to work out.

Keep my focus on simple for right now.

I know it can all sound terribly trite and cliche, but accepting this as a lifestyle has been profound for me.

Today we played outside and went to the park where we met up with friends and then went out for ice cream.  A gift to sit in the sunshine with friends while the kids play happily and to be fully in the moment.  I want more days like that.

this picture makes my heart happy

 

Liesl - April 30, 2012 - 4:35 pm

It is so hard NOT to get caught up in the big things in life because they are big and often rather important. But I too keep trying to focus on the small day to day things as well…..like shopping today at the mall with hardly anyone else around :)

Jenna - April 30, 2012 - 7:07 pm

This picture is precious! Looks like a fun time – glad you were able to enjoy today! :)

Maegan Dougherty - May 1, 2012 - 4:03 am

I want more days like that, too. :) Don’t forget…everything always works out!

Marcella - May 2, 2012 - 1:03 pm

those ice cream cones are very colorful!
wonder what some of those flavors were :-)

Debbie - May 2, 2012 - 6:57 pm

That picture makes me laugh – awesome! I was wondering about the ice cream flavors, too. I get caught up in big things, when there are so many little everyday things that can bring joy. But I really hope the big things start working out for you.

Cheryl Barker - May 8, 2012 - 7:53 am

Emily, you are right-on in your thinking. So much joy to be found in the simple things of life, even when the big things are uncertain or daunting at the time. Keep enjoying the moment, and may God guide you through all the big things. Praying for your health right now. Have a great week!

Meri - May 13, 2012 - 7:08 pm

I can so relate. Thanks for this post!

Meri - May 13, 2012 - 7:08 pm

What a great post!! I can totally relate.

wordless wednesday

Marcella - April 26, 2012 - 9:52 pm

those 2 are trouble!!!
But so cute…
She made him a present today :-)

Debbie - April 27, 2012 - 6:29 pm

Sweet! It has my imagination going… curious about the story behind the shot.